Filipina Asawa|Philippine Wife

Life has certainly taken a very different path since getting married to a Filipina. In many ways being married to a Filipina has been like being married to the Philippines.

In the early stages of our marriage there was a party to go to every weekend and so many functions. Soon Philippine related friends and events seemed to dominate our social life. Eventually we got tired of the same old parties and started to bring balance back into our lives.

Then there is Philippine food. I don’t mind it occasionally and actually enjoy some dishes but for the most part it is one world’s most boring and unimaginative cuisines. Lucky for me the wife has fully embraced international cuisine so we seldom have it at home.

One aspect of the Filipina that almost all husbands will encounter is their desire to send money home to support the family. Family is very important to the Filipina and they feel obligated to help their family out as much as possible. I have seen this alone cause real problems in Filipina relationships. When we were first married I hardly made enough to support my immediate family so sending money back to the Philippines on a regular basis was not an option.

We are both now of the opinion that sending regular payments only creates dependency as the need expands to fill available income. Thus we will only send money for emergencies and for special purposes with a specific end date (such as helping a child through school).

From my first visit I have dreamed of moving to the Philippines and living there. This was not possible for a long time, as I needed to continue to make a living while in the Philippines and did not have enough capital to even try it for a year.

My situation changed a few years ago and I started to plan on moving to the Philippines and living in Cebu. It was the first place I visited in the Philippines and sine then I have been visiting Cebu every time I have gone to the Philippines. After many holidays in Cebu and other parts of the Philippines it really is my favorite place.

So early this year we made the move and have been living here in Cebu now for almost three months. I actually have permanent residence and can legally work in the Philippines but this is not something I plan to do. The wife is thinking about having a business on Mactan which is the main island adjacent to Cebu and where the International Airport is.

Eventually I would like to start a business here and actually start making money in the Philippines. It is a matter of looking at all the options to make money in the Philippines and decide which is best for me.

I have also started learning Cebuano which is the local Filipino dialect here. I have found a great teacher for Cebuano at the Language Learning Resource who visits my house three times a week. I believe knowing the language will be very beneficial in the future. If you come to visit Cebu then I recommend this teacher.

I have started a living in Cebu blog where I will keep a record of my experiences, which may be helpful to others also thinking about living in the Philippines. I must give a plug to the Perry Gamsby who has written the Streetwise Philippines guides which I have found invaluable.

If you already have your Filipina asawa his guides are still full of stuff to help you with every aspect of your relationship with your wife and the Philippines in general.

If you have not found that beautiful Filipina honey then he has written Filipina 101 which tells you the best way to search for your Filipina Dream girl and future wife. This book is a must before you join any pen pall sites or use any introduction agencies. When you are ready you will find the best introduction sites at Asian Relationship Information so you can find your Filipina wife.

I have already mentioned my marriage in the Philippines back in 1989. What a hassle it was back then and from all reports the requirements for getting married are harder now. His follow up book Filipina 202 tells you all you need to get married in the Philippines and includes extensive information on migration. Getting married to a Filipina is a life changing decision that needs real consideration.

The Philippines is also a popular destination for the single male and has lots to offer in the area of adult entertainment. This aspect has also been the cause of many problems in relationships as Filipinas tend to be very jealous and too many men tend to want to be single when it suits them.

Finding your Filipina is easy. In fact for every man over 55 wanting to marry a Filipina there would have to be 100 young ladies from 18 to 25 very keen to be his ‘asawa’, or spouse. Of those 100, it would be safe to hazard the guess that at least 25 of them would be former bargirls and prostitutes, five or more might not even be female and of the rest, at least half would be either married, a single parent or already in one or more relationships. That still leaves 40% of warm, loving and devoted young ladies looking for YOU.

Even if you are overweight, old and bald it makes little difference to these women. Of course many of them are looking for an escape from grinding poverty and a dismal future, but so are young women in the former Soviet Union and Eastern Europe as well as South and Central America, Africa and elsewhere in Asia.

If you think you will be a Knight in Shining Armor and ’save’ a damsel from distress, never forget this is for life. You are playing with human feelings and people’s lives. There is no such thing as a ‘mail order bride’ and the term is insulting to both the lady and her future husband. People are not items you can have sent to you via FedEx. In fact there are now laws in place in the Philippines and the USA (IMBRA) to protect Filipinas from exploitation when they meet their prospective spouse via online penpal clubs and introduction agencies.

The right partner to be a loving companion throughout your retirement is a vital factor in enjoying that retirement. You have the rest of your life so don’t rush things. There will be dozens of pages and links running off this one. In time they will build up to become a major resource for anyone contemplating a new life with a new wife, perhaps even in a new location.